Popular vlogger Toke Makinwa officially became an author today as she debuted her book about her life, On Becoming.

A part of the book tells the story of her lengthy relationship with ex-husband Maje Ayida, revealing details about things that went down in the relationship.

She had previously shared snippets of the book previously, revealing how she found out he had a child outside, and how she had watched him have sex with his baby mama, Anita.

The Discovery

I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you can’t keep lying. What is going on?
He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like he is
having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.
I fall to the ground. My head….
‘What’s she having?’
‘A boy,’ he says.
‘How long have you known?’
‘I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.

The Sex Tape and Bleaching

“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged.

But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands….

I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me…. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita.

Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.

I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”

Following the book’s official release today, LIB shared a screenshot from the book, where Makinwa wrote about he’d given both herself and the other woman, Anita, sexually transmitted diseases.

An excerpt from Toke Makinwa's book, On Becoming

An excerpt from Toke Makinwa’s book, On Becoming

This book sure seems like a really good read.